Nui nā mākua e hālāwai me ka pilikia hoʻokahi i ka manawa hoʻokahi. E uē a walaʻau kā lākou mau keiki ma ka hale kūʻai kūʻai wale no akaʻa pāʻani palakaa i ʻole apuzzle dinosaur laau. Inā ʻaʻole hahai nā mākua i ko lākou makemake e kūʻai i kēia mau mea pāʻani, a laila e lilo nā keiki i mea ʻino loa a noho i ka hale kūʻai. I kēia manawa, hikiʻole i nā mākua ke hoʻomalu i kā lākou mau keiki, no ka mea, ua hala lākou i ka manawa kūpono e aʻo ai i kā lākou mau keiki. ʻO ia hoʻi, ua ʻike nā keiki e hiki iā lākou ke hoʻokō i kā lākou makemake i ka wā e uē ai lākou, no laila ʻaʻole e loli ka manaʻo o nā mākua.
No laila, i ka manawa hea e hāʻawi ai nā mākua i ka hoʻonaʻauao psychological i nā keiki a haʻi iā lākou i ke ʻanopono ke kūʻai aku i nā mea pāʻani?
ʻO ka pae maikaʻi loa o ka hoʻonaʻauao noʻonoʻo
ʻO ka hoʻonaʻauao ʻana i kahi keiki ʻaʻole ia e hoʻokomo makapō i ka noʻonoʻo maʻamau i ke ola a me ka ʻike e pono ai ke aʻo ʻia, akā ʻo ka hoʻokuʻu ʻana i ke keiki i ka hilinaʻi a hilinaʻi. Manaʻo paha kekahi mau mākua ua paʻa lākou i ka hana a hoʻouna i kā lākou mau keiki i nā kula haʻawina ʻoihana, akā ʻaʻole hiki i nā kumu ke aʻo maikaʻi i kā lākou mau keiki. ʻO kēia no ka hāʻawi ʻole ʻana o nā mākua i ke aloha kūpono i kā lākou mau keiki.
Pono nā keiki e ʻike i nā loli like ʻole i ko lākou ulu ʻana. Pono lākou e aʻo i ke ahonui mai ko lākou mau mākua. Ke ʻōlelo lākou i ko lākou pono, ʻaʻole hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻokō i nā manaʻo a pau o nā keiki i mea e hoʻoponopono koke ai i ka pilikia. No ka laʻana, inā makemake lākou i kahi pāʻani like ma hope o ka loaʻa ʻana iā lākouhe puʻupuʻu lāʻau, e a'o na makua e hoole. No ka mea, ʻaʻole e lawe mai kēlā ʻano mea pāʻani i nā keiki i ka hauʻoli a me ka hoʻokō, akā e kuhi hewa wale lākou e hiki ke maʻalahi nā mea āpau.
Manaʻo paha kekahi mau mākua he mea liʻiliʻi kēia? ʻOiai hiki iā lākou ke uku i nā pono o nā keiki, ʻaʻohe pono e hōʻole iā lākou. Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole i noʻonoʻo nā mākua inā hiki iā lākou ke hoʻomāʻona i kā lākou mau keiki i nā kūlana āpau ke lilo kā lākou mau keiki i ʻōpio a makemake i nā mea ʻoi aku ka pipiʻi? Ua loaʻa i nā keiki i kēlā manawa nā mana āpau a me nā koho e hana ai me ko lākou mau mākua.
ʻO ke ala kūpono e hōʻole i ke keiki
Ke ike mai na keiki he nuinā mea pāʻani a nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, Manaʻo lākou he ʻoi aku ka leʻaleʻa o kēia pāʻani ma mua o kā lākou mau mea pāʻani āpau. No ko lakou makemake e makaikai. Inā lawe nā mākua i kā lākou mau keiki ihe hale kūʻai mea pāʻani, ʻo ia hoʻi kanā mea pāʻani plastik liʻiliʻi maʻamauanā kaʻaahi magnetic lāʻaue lilo i mau mea a na keiki e makemake nui ai. ʻAʻole kēia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i pāʻani me kēia mau mea pāʻani, akā no ka mea ua maʻa lākou i ka lawe ʻana i nā mea no lākou. Ke ʻike nā mākua ʻo kā lākou mau keiki "ʻaʻole e haʻalele a hiki i kāu pahuhopu", pono lākou e ʻōlelo koke ʻaʻole.
Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole pono nā mākua e ʻae i kā lākou mau keiki e nalo i mua o ka lehulehu. ʻO ia hoʻi, mai hōʻino a hōʻole ʻole i kāu keiki ma ka lehulehu. E hoʻokuʻu i kāu mau keiki i mua o ʻoe, mai ʻae iā lākou e nānā ʻia, i ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli a hana i kekahi mau ʻano noʻonoʻo.
Ka manawa hoʻouna: Iulai-21-2021